I just realized, I’ve kept this Tumblr blog going for over a year!
My blog has been super active and it’s been slow. But over the course of this year. I’ve collected hundreds of followers. I’ve touched and have been touched by so many.
When I first started this, there was horrible news that a childhood friend committed suicide. I remember asking my self what can i do to help relieve the world of it’s suffering. So I decided to create my own positive place to help others. Yes, some people laughed. A girl i dated scoffed. But I believed the world needed this.
My blog isn’t huge and I wouldn’t say it’s original. But I’m happy that I have this blog. It’s my stand against the suffering in the world. I can only hope that it’s serves anybody reading this as a glimmer of light to help guide them when they need it the most.
I built this blog because I believe in you. Yes, YOU! Somebody I never met. Because if you are down. I have been there too. This is my way of extending my hand so you know you are not alone. You may not win today. But one day. Someday you win. When that day comes. I will say, i never doubted you. ;)
One candle can light a thousand. it will shine no less bright.
I just realized, I’ve kept this Tumblr blog going for over a year!
At the start of this year I vowed to sort out my personal life. I kinda expected it to be a case of seeing old friends and family. That maybe time away would somehow make it better like some fine wine. Like time would some how enrich it.
A few weeks in I realized that I came back to the very thing I was working to get out of.
Friends would make the same snippy bullshit comments. The type I think makes them feel better. But really I see it as a the worst kind of betray. I helped them when asked. I was happy for their success and I stood by them during their failures. When tables turned well it doesn’t go the same way.
I understand that a friendship or any good relationship isn’t a trade or exchange. But I also know that maybe I should look for those more like minded.
I actually introduced certain friends to their wives. I’m not even asking for the same. I’m just asking not to sabotage me when I’m trying to date.
So basically I felt pretty down over the last few weeks. And again my BS friends didn’t have a single contribution.
So what did I do? Well, I looked online and found the cheapest place I could just take off too. I found a crazy deal to some boutique hostile in Miami beach. In 24 hrs I was gone from the snow in Toronto to Miami to the first hostile I’ve ever been in my life.
The first night was kinda crazy. But I started to make friends, got to know the locals, I got to step out of my life for a few days for less then 600.
Being here sitting here drinking and hanging with my new friends from across the globe. I face the fact that tomorrow I need to return home.
In the little time I had here and my new found friends. I realized, the select few of those “friends” are not my friends. And when I get back maybe instead of returning home. I should consider building a new home. Maybe I shouldn’t settle on what’s important and actually take time to work on and discover what make ME happy and not just those around me.
And maybe it’s time I really moved on. I miss Nikki when our b-days past. But the past is the past. And I realized I should put the girls I met after nikki in the past along with her.
I can meet so many kindred spirits in one day. I’m sure I can find more back home.
“If you always do,what you always did. You always get what you always got”
I still believe. And these few days have showed me what I really want.
And I want something different.
As this chapter closes I’m gonna get off a plane. And start my next chapter or book in my story.
I would love to see the day when I world was more selfless opposed to being more and more selfish.
Until then… All I can do is try to be the change I want to see in the world.
In life there are 3 kinda of people. Those who make it happen, those who lets things happen and those who wonder “what the f**k happened!?!”
We all get to choose.
Before heading out to the gym, I figure id ask my followers what articles i should write. It’s been a month and my followers have grown. I basically made this blog after starting another one and seeing a lot of the stuggles out there. The same struggles I have had before. So I want to collect all the info I’ve learn in my life and share it so others can learn from it. I’m not a certified personal trainer, but I have several PT friends who are who will be more then happy to point out I know more then their teachers did. I also did it first hand and personally lost 50 lbs.
Please help me pick which topic I should start on!
Topics to start are:
1. The kick off-How to start your diet and what works in the early stages and worked the fastest!
2. The final mile- how to loose that last bit of stubborn fat.
3. Dieting- simple tips that make a huge difference.
4. Gaining muscle-what you need to do to pack on lean muscle. Lean muscles for girls and bulking up for guys. Lifting routines, what work outs and what to do?
5. The 3 day split - what a typical strength training routine for me looks like. Great starter for people new to lifting or fustrated with results. I’ll spell out a 3 month system with eastern German training, westside barbell, and other lifting systems and theories that will generally work for most people.
6. Goals - how to make things start to happen in your life. The secret is nice, but goals are more practical. Do a 180 on your life. How i went from staying in on weekends, to hanging with Rihanna in the VIP and chillin with Drake. How i tripled my incomes in 7 years. it’s kinda like my cliff notes on Tony Robbins lol
7. How to overcome depression - my own first hand story and what i personally did. May not help everybody but its nice to know your not alone.
8. How to talk to girls - are you a nice guy but have a hard time talking to girls? Frustrated with douches stealing your dream girl? I’ll write a article on how to crack the pick up puzzle.
9. Art of confidence - how to be more confident. simple tips I’ve learned to help you with public speaking and stop being shy. I used to be a very shy child growing up and had trouble talking. Now most people wish i would shut up lol
10. striking tips - collected tips and info on how to create more power in your strikes in your martial arts training. I’ve trained under former champions and UFC fighters. I can pass along some martial arts tips. Hit harder, faster, struggling with throws? I can give advice. :)
Msg me what you think or msg me a request of something you would want to know and i’ll see if I can help!
Sleeping in to noon, then being able to put in a full work out with out time constraints. Then still have time to see my friends and then go out at night! :)
To day is also my day where I start to cut out salt, sugar and refined flower. I actually try to avoid refine food as much as possible its the fastest way to drop excess body fat. I’m most likely going to start writing some articles and change my theme so I can save them for people to read. I’ve lost nearly 50 lbs in a little over a year. I’ve gotten dieting and body sculpting down to a science for my own body and can change weights like most people change jackets. Hopefully I can share it and help others out.
Also, write some articles on life hacking. How to get what you really want out of life.
Right now, i’m finishing my uh… noon… coffee then putting in some serious time in the gym. Starting my day on a high note :D
You can say its half empty or say it’s half full… in the end… i say drink it!!!
I’ve been super busy and swamped working. This saturday afternoon I get to finalize a blog design, finish a brochure design and get some concepts art work out for a new windows App.
But last night I went out for a little bit to meet up with a friends and have a few drinks and check out a Philly DJ that was in town. Usually when I’m out for whatever reason people like talking to me. I’m like gravity. Things, events and people are just drawn to me. Good and bad. lol
Inside with my friend’s guests asked so what do you do?
I went, “I’m an artist.”
Friends of friends, “oh so thats your job?”
Me, “Well, no I worked in creative for advertising, marketing and media. I’m actually a art director at a agency. I just don’t like being defined by my job. What I do for money isn’t who I am as a person. So I don’t usually talk about work outside of work.”
Shortly after at the end of the night I was looking for some friends to say bye and ended up outside the club. While standing outside a short blonde girl starts a convo.
Girl, “hey, do you have a light?”
Me, “uh… here it’s my friends lighter. Trying to find them now.”
Girl, “So whats your story?”
She ended up going on about how she’s tired of being young and can’t wait to grow older and get on with life and don’t I think so too?
I remember thinking why?
Inside it’s the same old crap. Somewhere along the line our jobs began to define us as who we are. The more sexy the job, the higher your status in life. Which I disagree with. I love my career and what I do. If I win the lotto, I’d show up at work the next day. When I was a kid, all I wanted to be was a bad ass artist. Now I’m old I wouldn’t sell out living my dream for a million bucks. But because i’m a art director and I’m talking to a graphic designer, that doesn’t make me better then them. We’ve become chained down by our past.
When your young, it’s different. It’s not about what you’ve done. Its about where your going. Problem is people never bother to enjoy the ride. The ride is where you obtain the wisdom that are the building blocks of maturity. The key is while living in the process anything is possible. That in it self is freedom. For some reason people are in a rush to live for the future so they can spend their lives defined by their past.
Live in the now. I think it’s the only thing that really matters. The past and future seems to only bring burdens that time puts on our shoulders. You can’t control those things. But you can control the now.